The ego is the part that built the title, the reputation and the story. When they are threatened, it defends. It does not defend politely.
It has four moves. Proving: look what I have done. Blaming: it was them. Hiding: I’m fine. Fixing: keep busy, solve it, skip the feeling. I ran hiding and fixing for months. Solving was how I avoided feeling it.
Defending feels like strength. It is a strategy that used to work. You do not fight it. You notice it, thank it, and ask what you actually need.
One question
Which defence did I use today: proving, blaming, hiding or fixing?
One action today
Catch it once today. Say its name silently: proving, blaming, hiding or fixing. Then choose your next move on purpose.
Carry this
The defence is trying to protect me. I can thank it and still choose.
One action in a day is a win. Do not do the whole path in a day.